Define yourself by purpose, not pain
A few wise writers have helped me recognize a positive truth. We all have had struggles and sustained injustices in our lives - some definitely more than others. However, the most successful in life don’t wallow in their pain, and just remained scarred by and angry because of it. They use it to build personal purpose, and new strengths that are gained by overcoming. They are not defined by what they went through, but what they have become.